I’m curious as to why you think it’s “lame as fuck”. Does it harm you? Does it harm them? Does it fucking harm anybody? Does it just seem like a quickly little weird thing that you don’t do but others might? The answer to one of those questions is, “Yes”.
You can spin up your own mumble server. It’s not that hard, and then once you have that running, you just tell your friends to download the mobile client and boom. You’re done