This way me! Thankfully I went into the guard right out of high-school and in basic/tech school if you fuck up then you stay longer or fail out immediately. That really helped me change my head space (so instead of literally not studying I cracked the books the night before, and post-graduate studies I’d sometimes look at them two nights before a test!).
To anyone who says that you can’t invade and occupy - take notes. Shockingly, murdering everyone and moving your people in seems to work? Who knew?