She ums and ahs about what to do for a bit, the shopkeeper is annoyed with her holding up the line and says they can loan her the difference in price, then she also hates the idea of owing a debt

Fwiw the whole thing story is free to read if you are interested.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable, but it may come a doss as unusual as it’s a small amount of extra work that most people don’t feel the need to do or at least not to the same extent; they are much more comfortable being reactive and only planning for contingencies after the primary plan fails.

On the bright side calibration is improved through experience, so you will only get better and better at it as you live your life 🙂

So this is pure conjecture and makes far too many assumptions about ASD and NT people; but I have two theories:

I suspect NT have an easier time with these situations since they have an easier time reading the emotions of others, which means they have a more accurate understanding of the consequences. ASD people are less confident in understanding how others may react so they catastrophize (X will be upset with me because I didn’t do exactly Y)

NT people know that the person on the counter isn’t mad that they don’t have correct change, they know that their parents are happy about the effort and the will to help ileven if the outcome isn’t the same.

Theory 2 which is related: A reliance on rules, scripts patterns and rituals to navigate the world makes uncontrollable deviations from these highly unpleasant, and empathy suggests that things you find unpleasant are probably unpleasant for others too.

This is compounded by the way people react negatively to atypical social reactions (this looks a lot like you have broken someone’s social interaction script and they are unhappy)

This then loops into itself and causes recursive problems; if you are forced off script you have atypical social interactions (I don’t have enough money for this, can I go home and get more) Vs the normal interactions the chaser has. This means you can perceive yourself as propagating your troubles to everyone else. E.g. if you bring home the wrong fish will your parents still be able to cook dinner or will they have to gasp improvise on the recipe.

By contrast NT people can see that the cashier experiencing unusual circumstances isn’t a problem, they don’t care and are just happy that the weird customer isn’t demanding to speak to the manager because something was out of stock.

All of this means that NT people have a reduced (and more accurate) perception of the stakes involved and therefore less stress and less need to over-plan.

But like… Why does it matter? Why does violet provoke so many people to “investigate” her gender and sexual orientation while others get to hornypost freely?

This post seems merely borderline imo, but lemmy in general seems to be a lot more relaxed around misogyny than the progressive atmosphere would lead you to believe.

The silver lining is that while misogynistic posts get a positive balance of a few hundred upvotes; there are actually only a handful of people posting them.

The post asserts that the women pictured are so unattractive that it has turned their republican husband’s gay.

The implication being that women are to be valued primarily by their physical appearance and a man is to be judged by the appearance of his wife.

Lemmy lets this slide because they are republicans and therefore acceptable targets, but they are bad people not because they are unattractive or they married someone unattractive/low-status, they are bad people because they voted for an administration which has done enormous harm to minorities, LGBTQ folks and anyone who drowned indirectly on USAID.

That’s not even getting into the problems with the conversation therapy-esque idea of being able to intentionally change an adults sexuality

It’s generally not even Londoners re-posting crime “news” about the capital (we live there, so we know) it’s more certain people from rural areas who neither live, work or visit London.

Those certain people are either the ones who have a chip on their shoulder about how London is a success despite not catering exclusively to white native born people, or people who just got sucked into an alternate reality where they read so much crime news that everyone in London must get stabbed once a year.

There is also a healthy dosage of conflating per square mile and per capita crime

Oh it’s easy;

Does doing it the correct way increase your workload but make the business more profitable in the short term? Do it the correct way.

Does doing it the correct way preserve your safety at the cost of operating efficiency? Do it the incorrect way.

The second kind of unfollowed rule is there as a liability shield, it’s so that if you get hurt the business can claim you weren’t following your mandatory training and they aren’t liable.

But if people did follow it then they would get a kind word from their supervisor saying we don’t have the time for that even if it is in the official training. Because the supervisor themselves is in a worse bind, they have to tell management that the new liability shield is being followed as it won’t work otherwise, but they are on the hook for the productivity of their team in such a way that they can’t allow people to follow the slow process.

No worries, glad it helped 🙂

I think it would be nice if there were good discoverable resources for things that come naturally to most people but others need to put work into understanding.

It’s not quite an “accident” in the sense someone made a mistake or stubled more like “an accident of history” where someone is influenced by events outside their control.

In this case it wasn’t like the iconic visual design was selected from the favourite of all the ideas they had purely by aesthetic criteria. Rather limitations in the way human perception works influenced them to try a different approach and it wound up being beautiful.

Mirrors edge is (from what I remember) mildly dystopian, so it felt slightly genre defying to have a clean aesthetic in te dystopia, rather than using dirt and grime to emphasise the squalor and neglect.

Ful disclosure; I’m on the autistic spectrum

Same, since this is something I struggled with for a while and this thread is old I will try to give (my) understanding of humour in general and how it applies here.

Okay, as far as I can tell the root of all humour is something unexpected/surprising/confusing.

A lot of wordplay operates by having you understand a sentence one way then

Where there’s a will, I want to be in it.

The surprise here is that you expect where there is a will there’s a way, and you expect “will” to refer to willpower, the unexpected aspect is that when you get to the end of the sentence it actually means last will and testament.

Comical misunderstandings in comedy fall under this, “edgy” humour is predicated on the idea that people will conform to polite discord then they break it. Cringe comedy is the same but rather than polite it’s “cool” (or whatever the atonym for cringe is.)

In this case the surprise is just that the doll looks like the daughter, you expect the doll to be some random famous character and instead it’s an image of someone you know.

This is mildly amusing but not that funny, what makes it hilarious (I assume) is the feedback loop between father and daughter. If he had been in the shop and seen it by himself there might have been a chuckle but not much more.

He shows her the mildly funny doll, she makes an unimpressed face as seen in the photo; she probably finds it a bit funny, but doesn’t want to give her dad a “win” for something which is vaguely at her expense, so puts on an unimpressed face. Having known her for her whole life Dad understands what is happening intuitively, this is the second layer of funny where the daughter is putting on an act, then it compounds because the contrast between his reaction and hers is amusing and the more he finds the situation funny the more pointed the contrast becomes causing a feedback loop.

The difference in reaction is a classic comedy trope people find funny, thats why most multi person comedy acts have someone play “the straight man”

Sadly I don’t think I can source this since nobody explains any of this so it’s all observation and trial and error

Don’t design for having a nice codebase today, design for having a clean codebase after 3 months of Devs copy pasting one bit of code then tweaking it to do what they need or adding more fields to existing concepts.

This generally means it’s best to have one pattern for a given thing, rather than having several patterns you pick based on context, the later runs into problems:

• Someone copy/pasted pattern A for a pattern B context
• Enough stuff changes in a pattern A implementation that it would now be better as a patter B thing.

A second consideration for this is that if there are a group of classes/files/whatever that regularly needs to be copied they should live together. If there are different sections of the code that needs to be edited when creating a new resource, they should be kept in one place and kept small-ish.

Most of this comes from accepting the way people tend to work and from the perspective that software is a living evolving process and only regarding a snapshot of it misses vital information.

I was going to say you have a static sense of what orientation you are in, e.g. you can tell standing up Vs lying on your front/back/side without relying on other senses and that feels different to the sensation of moving…

But thinking about it I guess the orientation sense is just detecting acceleration due to gravity?

More compelling than the edit, thank you for posting this.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-67582813

^ an article describing some of the reason Kissinger was such a vile person, including how he shares some of the responsibility for the rise of the Khmer Rouge

Tf did I do to you that I earned a call out like this? 😭

The only metric to imperial conversion I remember is kilometers to miles since it’s pretty close to the golden ratio.

Even if you don’t remember that the golden ratio is 1.6 and a bit, you can approximate it by using successive terms of the Fibonacci sequence.

1, 1, 2, 3, 5, 8, 13 …

So 8 miles is about 13km (actually 12.87)

It’s becoming more common where I am for a couple to move back to somewhere near one of their sets of parents before they have kids so they can rely on them for occasional childcare since both of the new parents usually have jobs

Because for a lot of people posting snark on the internet is more flattering to their ego than advancing the goals of movements they claim to support.

(Yes I amxaware of the irony within this post)

Do you get joy from simple things like eating a nice meal or taking a hot shower on a cold day?

Can you anticipate joy, if you are planning to meet up with friends or watch a movie or read a book; does thinking about the activity lift your mood even a little?

When you think back to happy memories do you feel happy, do you remember what the sensation of happiness felt like?

Not a professional and none of this is diagnostic one way or another, but it’s probably worth checking if you have exhausted or outgrown a hobby which just means you need to find more things you enjoy even if it’s just to add variety to your week. Or if your ability to feel joy itself is failing, in which case you probably need to a professional