I guess you’re already said it, there are ones that have a network effect, and depending on your priorities/relationships, you can cut them off or compromise. I cut off Facebool/Meta products in general some time ago, because it was clear that would be better for my mental health. Still kept in touch with people through texts and Signal. And I’m OK with having a smaller less noisy network. For most of my personal relationships and matters, I’d have to compromise less.

On the other hand, for more professional matters, like work, or trying to find communities that I care about or seek help from, I’d have to compromise more and accept that I have to use Zoom, Slack, Google products, … I have found ways to be OK with it. I hope you can find a way.

At the same time I may raise issues about those products’ nature if/when appropriate, with my colleagues, while acknowledging that the alternatives aren’t always seamless and easy. Let’s face it, many alternatives keep changing, and may require a high level of entry. Anw, when I can and if it’s easy enough, i may show them how I use alternatives and let them decide on their own.

Key points: compromise, be understanding & empathetic but still vigilant and an advocate when possible

EDIT: holy crap, I just realized this post is 3Y old. I’m an idiot 🤦