• Uriel238 [all pronouns]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    11 months ago

    I had three girlfriends for a while in my late twenties in that I was the guy they hooked up with when their primaries were out and they were feeling lonely / jealous. Not a great gig, as I was getting laid way less than I would have liked.

    Curiously, my flat-mate’s boyfriend, who was getting plenty, was envious of my poly adventures, maybe imaging more of a harem lifestyle than I actually had.

    PS: Only in my late forties did I ever become comfortable letting my parents get news about my love life, by which time it had stabilized.

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        11 months ago

        Nobody, which is why poly is exclusively for people with a scheduling kink.

        But yeah, I’ve never met a poly person who would bring three of their partners to a single event and introduce them all as their girlfriends. In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever met a poly who calls their partners “girlfriend”.

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          11 months ago

          I was in a poly relationship. I called my girlfriend “girlfriend” and she called me her “boyfriend,” and she also called her other boyfriend “boyfriend” and he called her “girlfriend.”

          It was a great, genuinely healthy relationship, and Kyle was an excellent dude who always treated our girlfriend excellently

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          11 months ago

          I’ve allowed my partner to refer to me as girlfriend to make discussion with others easier. I don’t love it, it doesn’t sound like a longterm adult relationship, but I recognize it’s easier to say “my wife and my girlfriend”.

          and both of us go to family Christmas, though not everyone needs to know relationship status.

          … you’re absolutely right about the scheduling thing though.