Oh I’m faulting no one, like I said, this used to be me. I disagree that there’s no way to learn emotional regulation skills earlier though, there are effective ways to teach this, but as a society we don’t teach emotional regulation skills at all. I was certainly never exposed to the concept and only stumbled across it as an adult
Fair. Emotional regulation is hard to teach, too, since you have to practice it when calm. Trying to teach mid-meltdown is a lot more challenging.
Yeah, I wasn’t taught to regulate myself either. I had to learn the hard way. Sadly, as a kid, I learned to act like my mom, and she never learned it either. Now I can do it but she can’t, and she’s in her 60s. It hurts my heart, because she’s only very slowly learning how therapy can help her (for the first 50+ years of her life, she resisted it - both for herself, and for her children.)
Definite a generational trend here. Almost everyone I know who has parents who are baby boomers with personality issues, those parents are staunchly “everyone else is the problem” kind of people and refuse to do any sort of self-reflection
Oh I’m faulting no one, like I said, this used to be me. I disagree that there’s no way to learn emotional regulation skills earlier though, there are effective ways to teach this, but as a society we don’t teach emotional regulation skills at all. I was certainly never exposed to the concept and only stumbled across it as an adult
Fair. Emotional regulation is hard to teach, too, since you have to practice it when calm. Trying to teach mid-meltdown is a lot more challenging.
Yeah, I wasn’t taught to regulate myself either. I had to learn the hard way. Sadly, as a kid, I learned to act like my mom, and she never learned it either. Now I can do it but she can’t, and she’s in her 60s. It hurts my heart, because she’s only very slowly learning how therapy can help her (for the first 50+ years of her life, she resisted it - both for herself, and for her children.)
Definite a generational trend here. Almost everyone I know who has parents who are baby boomers with personality issues, those parents are staunchly “everyone else is the problem” kind of people and refuse to do any sort of self-reflection
Yeah, because that would make it more difficult to manipulate people into believing nonsense.