I wouldn’t have put “you just haven’t found the right one yet” in the discrimination category. That strikes me as helpless and ignorant rather than structurally evil. But I guess it’s the repetition of it.
The “good fucking” one I’m with you. That’s awful. And the pride-internal groupthink is discriminating too.
Structurally our societies are usually oriented around people finding romantic life partners, and the state recognizes and makes life easier for people in these relationships. Modern life, especially with the current housing shit going on in North America, is much harder if your preferred way to live is a single income person living alone. This definitely disadvantages aro/ace people, though I’m not sure I’d call it discrimination.
Tangentially related, but I can’t miss an opportunity to bring up Elizabeth Brake’s really interesting paper, Minimizing Marriage. If the whole thing looks a little long I’d recommend reading at least chapter 7 to get the heart of her proposal, it’s a real eye opener.
It most definitely is discrimination. Because discrimination is “treating two things differently according to a discriminator”. Such as living alone or with a registered partner.
Now, the purpose of this is obvious (having a child is expensive and a good thing in the state’s eyes). Such cases where the discrimination “makes sense” (as it evens the playing field isntead of skewing it further) is usually termed as “positive” discrimination.
But as it technically fits the core requirement of discrimination, it is discrimination.
Because we are herd animals that tend to pick on those we perceive as different?
That being said, are they discriminated against? Can you give examples?
Ace person here. “You just need to find the right person” and variations of that are something we often get.
On the more malicious end of the spectrum, you get stuff like “you just need a good fucking first”
There are also people who feel that ace people should not be included in queer pride or have their own flag/identity.
I wouldn’t have put “you just haven’t found the right one yet” in the discrimination category. That strikes me as helpless and ignorant rather than structurally evil. But I guess it’s the repetition of it.
The “good fucking” one I’m with you. That’s awful. And the pride-internal groupthink is discriminating too.
Thanks for broadening my horizon.
“You just haven’t found the right one yet” is a typical passive aggressive way of telling people that they don’t know themselves.
So for me, a lesbian, I got “you just haven’t met the right man yet” many times. Most of the people saying that didn’t know how many men I have known.
“Corrective” rape has been used on ace people, for being ace.
Structurally our societies are usually oriented around people finding romantic life partners, and the state recognizes and makes life easier for people in these relationships. Modern life, especially with the current housing shit going on in North America, is much harder if your preferred way to live is a single income person living alone. This definitely disadvantages aro/ace people, though I’m not sure I’d call it discrimination.
Tangentially related, but I can’t miss an opportunity to bring up Elizabeth Brake’s really interesting paper, Minimizing Marriage. If the whole thing looks a little long I’d recommend reading at least chapter 7 to get the heart of her proposal, it’s a real eye opener.
It most definitely is discrimination. Because discrimination is “treating two things differently according to a discriminator”. Such as living alone or with a registered partner.
Now, the purpose of this is obvious (having a child is expensive and a good thing in the state’s eyes). Such cases where the discrimination “makes sense” (as it evens the playing field isntead of skewing it further) is usually termed as “positive” discrimination.
But as it technically fits the core requirement of discrimination, it is discrimination.