I genuinely don’t understand how people see social interaction as something beautiful or natural. To me it feels like pure obligation.
Even at work you are not really yourself. You are adjusting how you speak, how you act, and how you respond just to fit the role, satisfy your employer, and keep things smooth with colleagues. That constant switching can be exhausting.
Outside of work it does not feel that different. Conversations, replying, small talk, making plans, it can all feel more like maintenance than real connection.
And yeah, I can agree that most people are not fully themselves in these situations. Everyone is performing to some extent depending on the setting. The difference is some people find it normal while others find it draining.
Sometimes it feels like people are not actually enjoying it as much as they say, they are just used to it being the default way to live.
Maybe I am missing something but I do not see the beautiful part everyone talks about.
I’m an introvert, both shy and socially anxious. Not the talkative type either. And I probably have ADHD, focusing on conversations, especially when it’s not a one on one discussion can be extremely hard for me.
My personal experience is that social interactions can be a nightmare but they can also be very rewarding, if only because it often takes my focus away from the demons in my head.
It really depends on what kind of social interaction, who I’m having them with and how often/how long.