This is an article I wrote in response to a thing that annoys me.
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Why is this even associated with autism specifically? Like, NTs in relationships with NTs can have people not believe them when they share stuff that is going on. Could also apply to rape accusations in the barest definition. “Person in relationship(consensual or otherwise) isn’t believed when communicated experiences with others”.
This is definitely a what is wrong with “their friends” issue and not anything to do with an autistic partner regardless of the relationship challenges.
Edit: To add, this could be a coworker who seems different around the person and they may not even be doing anything wrong. The friends or community are basically gaslighting by dismissal which leads to the ptsd or other symptoms. Also there is no reason to genderfy this. Probably could call it Cass Syndrome as that is close to original without gender as Cass sounds gender neutral to me.
redweasel@lemmy.world > Why is this even associated with autism specifically?
It isn’t, exclusively at least. But autistic people seem to be targeted at a fairly high rate by Cluster B folks, thanks in no small part to our tendency to take people at face value and trust people when they say they think/believe/will do things, so it’s a common shared experience among autistics.
to gaslight autistic victims of domestic abuse.
That would also apply to what I would think the definition would make more sense being. Wouldn’t even need to be DA, just frustrations over their partner. To be clear, the problem is the friends/community around them denying their experiences.
Which if anything, means the fault is between the Neurotypical partner and their neurotypical friends. Yet the neurotypical failure to empathize even with other neurotypicals is somehow blamed on the non neurotypical partner.
Also,. from my own experience, my ex’s neurotypical sister would ignore her rants, because they saw how she was the abusive one, and once appologised to me on her behalf. So it is possible that their Cassandra syndrome is the frustration of the abuser for failing to get support from their community to justify their abuse.
And now they are gaslighting the whole psychiatric community so they get that support.
In a least some cases that definitely seems viable as people have used it in other ways as well. Just another way.
I can see the “condition” being useful, but not as defined. Very restrictive, ableist and sexist.