They don’t really always do that. I think there is also a thing where the one talking let the other one take the word if they start talking.
As an adhd gal i often experience how I, if I give the slightest pause after a sentence, even if it is pretty clear that it led up to the next sentence, some nevrotypical person starts talking. Not because I’m done, but because the sentence ended
fridam@lemmy.blahaj.zone This. There’s some sort of flow and cadence they lock on to, and seem to know when to give way and when to take over. There might even be body language they’re reading to know when to jump in and when to yield. I’ve watched it happen at work for years now, where my pod of coworkers will be discussing an issue, and they all just speak seamlessly, one person’s sentence sending and the next person’s beginning like they had coordinated. Meanwhile, I’ll be sitting there waiting for everyone to stop and give a clear signal that there is room to add my own thoughts, and the space never comes.
Usually my manager puts the breaks on the discussion to say “Kichae, it looks like you have something you want to add”. Or, I just stop waiting for an opportunity and start talking over people, and I’m the largest and loudest guy in the room, so they stop.
They don’t really always do that. I think there is also a thing where the one talking let the other one take the word if they start talking. As an adhd gal i often experience how I, if I give the slightest pause after a sentence, even if it is pretty clear that it led up to the next sentence, some nevrotypical person starts talking. Not because I’m done, but because the sentence ended
fridam@lemmy.blahaj.zone This. There’s some sort of flow and cadence they lock on to, and seem to know when to give way and when to take over. There might even be body language they’re reading to know when to jump in and when to yield. I’ve watched it happen at work for years now, where my pod of coworkers will be discussing an issue, and they all just speak seamlessly, one person’s sentence sending and the next person’s beginning like they had coordinated. Meanwhile, I’ll be sitting there waiting for everyone to stop and give a clear signal that there is room to add my own thoughts, and the space never comes.
Usually my manager puts the breaks on the discussion to say “Kichae, it looks like you have something you want to add”. Or, I just stop waiting for an opportunity and start talking over people, and I’m the largest and loudest guy in the room, so they stop.