The usual misunderstanding. Trying to learn how to naturally speak their language while still saying what I am intending to say.
The usual misunderstanding. Trying to learn how to naturally speak their language while still saying what I am intending to say.
Huh? I said something mean? See, this is what I am talking about. You cannot give me a hard concrete fact, but you feel like I am attacking you. Type A. Neat and easy.
I usually operate under the following premise:
Usually I see people not being consistent in applying the rules they hold others to themselves.
Any emotion or tone you are hearing is called Projection. I’m generally don’t let others control my emotions anymore after I stopped naively assuming good faith as a default. Now I assume neutral is the default.
You did not say anything mean. I’m telling everyone else not to be mean to you. Don’t make me remove my own comment. I HAVE NOT HAD ANY COFFEE YET!
Apologies, I often get yelled at, and of course tone on text, I’m sure it happens all the time heheheh
And def don’t remove any comment, I think this conversation is very valuable modeling of good communication skills!
Yeah my mind is kinda weird, I don’t really have much more than a quick ping of emotion to tell me a quick tone check, but otherwise I don’t really take anything personally anymore.
Here’s the wild thing. If you read what i said outloud and pretend to be a robot, you’ll get the real me. But if you read it in your own voice, BAM, what does it sound like? So different right?
Masking and Mirroring!
And did you see how I confused what you said for something else? That MY projection back onto YOU! Crazy complex topics!
Yet we humans like to pretend oh its just talking. How often do we really actually check whether or not we’re on the same page in a conversation?