Does anyone have any experiences, frustrations or advice that they would like to share about maintaining long term relationships or starting over as someone with autism?
I‘m a millennial woman, and keeping people in my life has been a lifelong struggle. Today my spouse wants a divorce after 16 years of marriage. The reason stated is because of autism. I’m introverted, like to plan things, tend to lose focus and it’s like people just eventually get bored of you.
I have no family support, grew up in the foster system. I would lose my health insurance, home and everything in a divorce. Friends are through my spouse.
Feel free to PM me too if you are interested in talking. Could use a friend or maybe advice trying to start my life over somewhere else that I can get healthcare. I also happen to be learning German but open to talking with anyone.
sounds like you spent you whole life masking, trying to fit in, and the place where you should have been safe to be yourself (your own home) you weren’t safe to be yourself.
you now get to figure out who you are.
I’ve been though something extremely similar. what worked for me (after the divorce) was not masking and finding groups where being on a spectrum was the norm (local mutual aids/ leftist action groups), I don’t just have “friends”, I have a whole tight knit community whom I love and adore, Gotten myself into a poly thingy, and while I’m still dealing with a life of divorce bullshit (and ICE), I have never in my life have been in a better mental space.