Does anyone have any experiences, frustrations or advice that they would like to share about maintaining long term relationships or starting over as someone with autism?
I‘m a millennial woman, and keeping people in my life has been a lifelong struggle. Today my spouse wants a divorce after 16 years of marriage. The reason stated is because of autism. I’m introverted, like to plan things, tend to lose focus and it’s like people just eventually get bored of you.
I have no family support, grew up in the foster system. I would lose my health insurance, home and everything in a divorce. Friends are through my spouse.
Feel free to PM me too if you are interested in talking. Could use a friend or maybe advice trying to start my life over somewhere else that I can get healthcare. I also happen to be learning German but open to talking with anyone.
Many end up on the ‘market’ again in middle age, usually with more wisdom and realistic expectations, check that divorce rate. If you’ve made a choice to not bother with it because it’s too much hassle (maybe subconsciously), that’s perfectly valid, but otherwise, manage your own expectations and re-evaluate your search strategy (free vowel, online dating is not just enshittified, but approaching the shit event horizon) .