I have several disorders which are located inside of the brain (which obviously includes autism, hence me posting here). I dislike calling myself “neurodivergent” for many reasons. For one, people use this term as a replacement word for autism, and I have many conditions besides autism.
For example, I’ll see posts saying, “neurodivergent people sre more likely to do XYZ.” There are so many disorders which fall under the neurodivergent umbrella that it isn’t humanly possible for neurodivergent people to be more likely to say or do something than other folks; just say autistic in this context.
I also find that my personal experience gets watered down by calling myself neurodivergent; it feels like a modern version of being called special. I have several conditions which fall under different categories; psychiatric, neurological, and neurodevelopmental. To call all of that just neurodivergent is not very specific and doesn’t tell a person what my needs are (plus, they’ll just assume I’m autistic).
Neurodisabled would be a different category all together. Many forms of neurodivergency aren’t disabilities, or aren’t always disabilities. Autism is one of these. It can be a disability, but it’s a broad enough spectrum that sometimes it isn’t a disability.
It’s a disorder. A disordered thing isn’t necessarily disabled. OP is too neurodisabled to see categories properly I’m afraid.
And that’s me using the word OP literally asked people to use, before a mod removes this comment as well. Even though that’s not actually a medical term even 1% as common as neurodivergence, which OP says is “not even a medical term”.
It’s literally the title of a medical journal. Saying it is not a medical term is like saying “acceleration” isn’t a term physicists use.