I no longer plan days. I plan small moments, events, conversations, and I plan reactions for when my plans go wrong (things like incompatible and alternative behaviors). I often find myself imitating characters and people I’ve admired who have great social skills and compassion. Breaking my day up into calendar events has helped tremendously. It feels silly, but planning for plans to break was so painful at first, now it’s just something I laugh over as I rewrite my calendar for the third time in a day.