tbh I am always disappointed when this conversation comes up in these spaces. I feel entirely left out and invalidated. It’s difficult for me to avoid the assumption that many of the people taking the opposing position here are self-dX. Like how mild are your symptoms that they go away when people are nicer to you and lower their expectations of you?
ADHD fucking sucks. I don’t mean the way people treat me sucks. I mean ADHD sucks. It is a roadblock that prevents me from accomplishing goals that I set for myself, even if I take a week off work to do it. Even if the goals are just for fun. I want to be able to focus on programming. I want to be able to focus on writing. I want better executive function. I want to be able to consistently make better choices. I do not want to be cared for. I am an independent person and I always have been. Living in a multigenerational household where my grandma does my laundry and I cook on odd numbered days when I feel like it or whatever will not change the way my brain works. It also just sounds like a nightmare.
For what it’s worth when I clap back at the “ADHD is a you problem” I’m not saying the meds don’t help. You can pry these drugs from my cold dead hands!
If life was more accommodating maybe I could use them to be the person I want to be and not to enable me to suppress burnout symptoms so that I can participate in capitalism.
Imho, the expectation that we musts et goals and achieve them is partly due to the society imposing this on us… Yet it’s true that we must still set goals regarding food and sleep!
When I’m by myself (ex: backpacking), I try to avoid setting goals, and to go with the flow. The hardest part is not to overpay for things when normies assume that “not planning” is a good reason to screw someone over. (ie: they didn’t book in advance, so off course it’s normal to charge 5x the price!)
I decided that I don’t want to be a virtuoso at the guitar, I just play for fun. If I can’t practice a full hour everyday because of my ED, I no longer care.
tbh I am always disappointed when this conversation comes up in these spaces. I feel entirely left out and invalidated. It’s difficult for me to avoid the assumption that many of the people taking the opposing position here are self-dX. Like how mild are your symptoms that they go away when people are nicer to you and lower their expectations of you?
ADHD fucking sucks. I don’t mean the way people treat me sucks. I mean ADHD sucks. It is a roadblock that prevents me from accomplishing goals that I set for myself, even if I take a week off work to do it. Even if the goals are just for fun. I want to be able to focus on programming. I want to be able to focus on writing. I want better executive function. I want to be able to consistently make better choices. I do not want to be cared for. I am an independent person and I always have been. Living in a multigenerational household where my grandma does my laundry and I cook on odd numbered days when I feel like it or whatever will not change the way my brain works. It also just sounds like a nightmare.
For what it’s worth when I clap back at the “ADHD is a you problem” I’m not saying the meds don’t help. You can pry these drugs from my cold dead hands!
If life was more accommodating maybe I could use them to be the person I want to be and not to enable me to suppress burnout symptoms so that I can participate in capitalism.
Imho, the expectation that we musts et goals and achieve them is partly due to the society imposing this on us… Yet it’s true that we must still set goals regarding food and sleep!
When I’m by myself (ex: backpacking), I try to avoid setting goals, and to go with the flow. The hardest part is not to overpay for things when normies assume that “not planning” is a good reason to screw someone over. (ie: they didn’t book in advance, so off course it’s normal to charge 5x the price!)
I decided that I don’t want to be a virtuoso at the guitar, I just play for fun. If I can’t practice a full hour everyday because of my ED, I no longer care.