I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.

I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.

I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it’s like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.

Recently I’ve found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those autism things you learn to live with?

Edit: since a few people have reached out the app I use is called Kinly Connect

  • retrolasered@feddit.uk
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    1 day ago

    Yeah the only friend I do things semi regularly with is the one I work with. Other friends it will be far less often, I just end up busy and it doesnt even cross my mind. I dont feel guilty about it - im not the only one not staying in touch, and I dont expect my friends to feel guilty for not messaging me either.