Ok, the Pisces part has to do more with a special interest of mine as I am a Pisces and am interested in horoscopes. But something I’ve noticed and heard often is that Pisces often take in others emotions as their own, and tend to get really sensitive. I am like this with a lot of people, but primarily those I am close to.

So now to the noise sensitivity part. My sister came home from the mental hospital today, and since then, there has been lots of negative. It’s mostly been the low tone voice, but a little while ago, my dad and I were watching TV and he pointed out to my mom that my sister was crying and she should probably go see what was going on. Then out of nowhere, he called my sister in the room we were in.

This is where the sensitivity sets in. I don’t like admitting it but I HATE crying. Whether it’s babies, kids or a younger sibling, it drives me crazy. To me, it’s just whining, wailing, and hyperventilating. It’s not the noise that bothers me, but how sensitive I feel when it happens. I always get this strong urge to do something, but often times I lack impulse control and either give the person crying a big hug, or shout at them about how amazing they are. As a child, I used to get really violent, hitting things and crying myself, so I believe I’ve made some progress lol.

I used to wear headphones to block out the noise but now I’m ashamed to wear them in front of anyone, especially as an adult. I also tend to get really sensitive when I don’t do something to help, and often have a meltdown. I’m also quite worried since something similar happened the last time my sister came home from the hospital, and it got progressively worse, particularly the crying.

Is anybody else here an older sibling and does not do well with crying

  • NihilsineNefas@slrpnk.net
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    2 days ago

    Yeah I’m… Probably not fully on the spectrum/have been able to fly under the radar by being a guy but that’s besides the point

    Its entirely normal to want to comfort someone crying, way back in the day I was at a festival after hours wandering the campsite, spotted someone in the ‘its floor time’ position crying and practically abducted them into the group of randoms I had found to try and make them feel better.

    You’re just a decent human bean

    In terms of getting overwhelmed when someone’s crying, trying to help by either being a literal shoulder to cry on or by talking (try to avoid being shouty or loud, keep it soft like you’re trying to wipe the tears away with care. not sandblast with compliments.)

    Also definitely don’t take anyone who’s upset lashing out at you for trying to help personally, imagine it like they’re also overwhelmed but about 40 miles down the road of overwhelmed where you’ve just joined the slip road, so give them space if they need it, even if they ask for it by flipping their lid.