transcription: “i can fix he-” NO
Fix her? And ruin the fun?
She can make me worse
Maybe you can’t fix her but I’m very fixable.
I can’t fix her, but I still love her 🥺
A large number of those girls are borderline sociopaths, even murderers.
There are many girls that are more worthy of your attention, who also don’t need to be fixed, just some acceptance and support.
loving the implication that there are some girls unworthy of acceptance and support
I mean, at a certain point, not much can be done lol
For example, every Murdoch news anchor.
A large number of those girls are borderline sociopaths, even murderers.
Good news, there is research showing even those which are ableistly called ‘sociopaths’ (which isn’t a real thing), and murders can be helped to not behave in harmful ways any more.
Sociopathy is absolutely a real, defined, in-use term. It’s shorthand for someone who suffers from Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD), which
removes ones ability to feel empathy and to distinguish between the morally right and wrong*ahem* “causes the individual to habitually and pervasively disregard or violate the rights and considerations of others without remorse”. If we’re going to be pedantic here, I’ll just quote the DSM-5, though I’m well aware that the DSM is flawed in many ways. You’re right that it can be treated, but it is notoriously difficult to treat, as patients are highly unlikely to believe they have a problem, and even less likely to commit to treatment for it. Being a personality disorder, treatment is done through therapy, as medications alone cannot treat it. As someone who suffers from a personality disorder (BPD), I am able to recognize personally how difficult they are to treat. That doesn’t mean they can’t be treated, and certainly doesn’t mean it isn’t worth seeking treatment, but it can often feel that way (in my personal experience). Having BPD, I am solely responsible for the harm I do unto others, and the same can be said for ASPD. I understand (and personally struggle with) others not wanting to be around me or have close personal relationships with me. I’m currently in the beginning phases of treatment and have a lot to go. I understand that the person I am right now is not someone who is ready for a committed relationship, and don’t believe it to be ableist for one to not be attracted to me for that. Again, at the beginning of my treatment, I still have a long way to go before I’d be comfortable even thinking about relationships. Sometimes people simply aren’t ready for relationships, and while that doesn’t mean they won’t ever be, it does mean that it isn’t ableist to not be interested in someone who isn’t ready (whether that person understands if they’re ready or not).You’re thinking of the term “psychopath”, which is no longer in use.
Hey I want to say kudos for recognizing what you’re going through and getting treatment for it. I think you are awesome for taking responsibility for the harm you may cause to others, and realizing that you want to work on yourself before getting into a relationship. None of those things are easy for non-disordered people to acknowledge, and my understanding is that the actions you’re taking are extremely difficult and painful for those with personality disorders. I hope you stick with it and I genuinely wish you all the best in recovery.
Thank you also for spreading knowledge about these disorders. I wish there was more education and understanding in our society.
Sociopathy and psychopathy are incorrect terms for ASPD, they’re meant to provoke fear. That was our only point really.
As for the rest of what you said, we’re well aware of a lot of it as it’s a special interest of ours (behaviour) and we’ve met people who have various ‘cluster B’ diagnoses and always did our best to understand them and work with them.
Though A lot of how you define/explain ASPD is incorrect, just so you know.
We weren’t really claiming anything about whether it’s ableist or not about choosing to have a relationship with someone who is diagnosed with ‘cluster b’ diagnoses or not.
Still, thanks for sharing your experience with us and we hope the treatment goes well.
As someone who’s been diagnosed with ASPD (which is colloquially known as sociopathy), it just means I’ve got a dysfunction in the part of my brain that automatically empathizes with others. When I’m put under a lot of stress that part of me can come out, because it’s my default wiring, so to speak, but the vast majority of the time I’m able to manually empathize with other people and think it through rather than relying on intuition.
But yeah, the point I wanted to make is that just because someone’s a ‘sociopath’ it doesn’t mean that they’re irredeemably broken.
Yes, ASPD is the correct term and we do wish people would stop using the ‘scary’ and incorrect wording sociopathy and psychopathy, since that isn’t how they’re defined anywhere officially as far as we’re aware.
Yeah, we’ve done some research recently and have a lot of empathy, sympathy, care and understanding for those who are diagnosed with ASPD. Thank you for explaining how it effects you though.
Yes, we agree, thanks for backing us up :).
okay but how much of Ashley is just Andrew enabling her/her terrible parents like c’mon I could try
There is no fixing Nicole
“There goes my second Christmas”
You know, I only had the time to play You Me and Her through one time, and I thought Miyuki was fine. Things really must have gone off the rails after that
Love to see Giffany represented here
So you’re saying Milk-chan can be fixed??? Yessss
…i’m not even trying to visit that fandom.
like…what the fuckI wouldn’t really say it has a fandom. The games are pretty indie and the psychological horror is present in both of them.
