It’s a real shame that bigots have historically used “it” to de-humanize people.

Personally I use male pronouns because it’s easy and obvious and I don’t really care enough. I don’t love constantly identifying with a gender. But I also don’t want to be identified as plural. And yeah, I know that singular ‘they’ has been around for hundreds of years, but you can also find grammar authorities speaking out against it for hundreds of years. For exchanging information efficiently, I think single vs plural is a much more important distinction in our modern world than which gender someone identifies as.

I wish I could identify as “it” without freaking people out. I also wish people respected objects, without having to give them gendered pronouns or faces or human names to do so.

I respect all my they/them homies, including one of my partners, but it seems to me like a linguistic bandaid on a bad system.