In the case of my autism I was fortunate enough to not reflect it back on myself in most cases and instead was just frequently frustrated with how shockingly fickle, arbitrary, flighty, shortsighted, and ethically inconsistent other people seemed to be.
My mom did her best to turn it inward by always telling me I was “too judgemental” but she had already raised me with enough confidence and privledge by that point that instead of crushing my spirit it just made standing up for myself extra frustrating.
I have the same hyper sense of justice and so does my kid. Even knowing what is going on and understanding what they are dealing with, it is insanely difficult to try to get my kid to understand how to walk the fine line between being a good human/citizen and being a danger to themselves and society.
It’s really amusing sometimes to catch people’s reactions as you explain to a child that sometimes lies are the right choice. That the truth is sometimes not only needlessly cruel, but also unjust and unfair.
In the case of my autism I was fortunate enough to not reflect it back on myself in most cases and instead was just frequently frustrated with how shockingly fickle, arbitrary, flighty, shortsighted, and ethically inconsistent other people seemed to be.
My mom did her best to turn it inward by always telling me I was “too judgemental” but she had already raised me with enough confidence and privledge by that point that instead of crushing my spirit it just made standing up for myself extra frustrating.
FWIW, if you didn’t already know, ASD people (and other neurodivergents) can have a heightened sensitivity to injustice and inequality. So that could have contributed to your frustrations.
I am so painfully aware yes lol. Like my brain min-maxxed that specific attribute. But thanks! A lot of young people don’t know this.
I have the same hyper sense of justice and so does my kid. Even knowing what is going on and understanding what they are dealing with, it is insanely difficult to try to get my kid to understand how to walk the fine line between being a good human/citizen and being a danger to themselves and society.
It’s really amusing sometimes to catch people’s reactions as you explain to a child that sometimes lies are the right choice. That the truth is sometimes not only needlessly cruel, but also unjust and unfair.