Like… How do you do things that are good for you and necessary?

  • AddLemmus@lemmy.ml
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    8 days ago

    For me it works with these two tweaks:

    1. the list is written, never just in my head
    2. I go through the items one by one and “simulate” them briefly in my head. Then do what feels right, no pressure, also fine to do nothing. Only the “simulation” is mandatory

    That is the real miracle method I’ve been chasing all my life.

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        8 days ago

        Tell me how it went. I’m curious if it’s the best of all methods, or just what works for me.

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          5 days ago

          Well I wasn’t more productive (or less productive), but I definitely feel less guilty. Since I’ve been fairly confident that stress from guilt has been preventing me from accomplishing anything, I’m gonna keep trying and see if that works out.

          Relatedly, do you find you have to make the list the day of? Is it more the repeating out loud that’s helpful? I expect for me, I’d be able to make a list the night before, but I don’t think I’d be able to make one further out than that without me just ignoring it completely.

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            3 days ago

            Interesting. I absolutely need the list. If I get into the unfortunate situation to start a day without having the list already, I have to use 100 % of my willpower to just make a list. I have to tell myself: “You can eat a whole cake and watch videos for 2 hours if you just MAKE the list. Don’t actually have to do anything on it.”

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              3 days ago

              Its definitely easier to start with the list, but I can make one easy enough in the morning. I’m less likely to do the things on the list though. I can’t let myself do anything that’s time-based as a reward, like TV, k just forget everything else. Those sorts of things are for after the list is done.