I don’t know if I would be offended, but I’d be willing to let more than a few people control my mute button. I’d certainly get over it in like 10 minutes even if it did bug me… So long as they were genuine.

In truth, I don’t really see it as over explaining as much as my need to trace a path of connections through my empirical experiences and heuristics that access that information.

I think most people memorize stuff they do not actually understand. I understand things, but it is more like statistics and heuristics. I want to explain things to ground myself in where I’m at, and because my intent is to collaborate. I want to be wrong and I want you to tell me where exactly I make any wrong turns. I’m fundamentally curious and want to expand upon the subject of interest. I explain because I want to grow, and want to grow with you, collaboratively, and in depth. I’m fishing for someone else like me. I’m embarrassed not because I have over explained, but because I am such a poor judge of the curiosity and motivations of others and I mistook you for someone with infinite capacity for curiosity.

You’ll soon learn that most people will only read the subject line and the first sentence.

My daughter haha.

She was telling me about some creator who did something she didn’t like.

The thing she didn’t like would have been a perfectly ok amount of information to give me. I am, and will always be outside of the situation. That ain’t how she rolls though, I had to hear the years long backstory leading to the moment she got upset.

I told her that two pieces of information would have been enough. The part where the dude did a thing, and then the part where he contradicted himself and became a hypocrite.

I couldn’t even remotely retain the rest.

I do try to follow her though. Man, I try.

it’s a fa-a-a-a-ke!

there’s no way a really neurodivergent person would be able to fit that elegant explanation in so small a tweet.