I’m having relationship issues. My partner had ADHD and can’t stick to appointments. I have autism and can’t handle appointment changes. Every time I clear my schedule for her, then to be disappointed as she changes her schedule around. And every time we have limited time when I see her as she lives in a different country, so I need to clear my schedule as she’s staying over at my place. She can’t understand why it’s such a big issue for me, while I understand her struggles. But she fails to meet me in the middle, so she hurts me and me making a point of it hurts her as it truly is an ADHD issue she struggles with while for me it’s an autism issue.