I get the motivations. Life is really hard for folks like us, especially in unsympathetic areas. I just mean, how do they manage it? Like, if I told my parents that I’m aroace, and they reacted badly, would I just say, “uhh, nevermind, I was just confused”? Would anyone really believe that? At that point, plausible deniability would just disappear for me. I suppose that if someone’s parents really want a straight kid, their minds would probably do some mental gymnastics.
I don’t necessarily think you’d be going back in the closet to everyone you came out to, but more likely cutting ties with people who take it badly and then playing it safe with a different crowd. Doing a reset somewhere else.
Wouldn’t surprise me though if a lot of the parents out there who take it badly are also “pray away the gay” types who think it can be “cured” with some extra Jesus power. So if you just say “Oh hey I went to church and I’m all better now,” they might be dumb enough to believe it, sad as it is.
I get the motivations. Life is really hard for folks like us, especially in unsympathetic areas. I just mean, how do they manage it? Like, if I told my parents that I’m aroace, and they reacted badly, would I just say, “uhh, nevermind, I was just confused”? Would anyone really believe that? At that point, plausible deniability would just disappear for me. I suppose that if someone’s parents really want a straight kid, their minds would probably do some mental gymnastics.
I don’t necessarily think you’d be going back in the closet to everyone you came out to, but more likely cutting ties with people who take it badly and then playing it safe with a different crowd. Doing a reset somewhere else.
Wouldn’t surprise me though if a lot of the parents out there who take it badly are also “pray away the gay” types who think it can be “cured” with some extra Jesus power. So if you just say “Oh hey I went to church and I’m all better now,” they might be dumb enough to believe it, sad as it is.