I’m self undiagnosing. Nothing is wrong with me. Yay!!!
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Self diagnosing me being in love with my squid wife (she scares me in a good way)
Yipeeee, I have just self diagnosed myself as not depressed :3
yippee
so proud of you for overcoming adversity
Reminds me of people going back in the closet. Still don’t really get how that works.
Sometimes it’s just about doing what you can to survive. Being out opens you up to a lot of disadvantages and hardship depending on where you are and the resources available to you. For some who are struggling to get by and don’t see a way forward, an opportunity to move to a new place or start a new job where people don’t know you’re queer/trans is an unfortunate but reliable option to gain a degree of socioeconomic stability, ideally in preparation for coming out again later on with a better starting hand next time.
Sometimes people look at the hardship they experience and go into denial, figuring they can live permanently in the closet like people used to do and still have a somewhat fulfilling life. I think it’s sad, but sometimes folks just don’t have the fight in them to live as their true selves when all they want is to be seen as “normal”.
I get the motivations. Life is really hard for folks like us, especially in unsympathetic areas. I just mean, how do they manage it? Like, if I told my parents that I’m aroace, and they reacted badly, would I just say, “uhh, nevermind, I was just confused”? Would anyone really believe that? At that point, plausible deniability would just disappear for me. I suppose that if someone’s parents really want a straight kid, their minds would probably do some mental gymnastics.
I don’t necessarily think you’d be going back in the closet to everyone you came out to, but more likely cutting ties with people who take it badly and then playing it safe with a different crowd. Doing a reset somewhere else.
Wouldn’t surprise me though if a lot of the parents out there who take it badly are also “pray away the gay” types who think it can be “cured” with some extra Jesus power. So if you just say “Oh hey I went to church and I’m all better now,” they might be dumb enough to believe it, sad as it is.
