• Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    My lack of social understanding? Gender neutral?

    I have to smash through the wall like Hbomberguy right now

    “DO YOU FUCK DUDES? AnomalousBit?”

    Do you go around telling other people that you fuck dudes? What do other people assume you mean when you say that you fuck dudes?

    You could have just been like “Yeah you’re right, sorry.” but instead you doubled down on being a transphobic dickhead and literally proved my point about liberals being shitbags.

      • BurgerPunk [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        1 year ago

        No, it wouldn’t be a problem if he said he fucked dudes. The implication though is that “dudes” is a gendered term. The complaint is that she was misgendered by someone who then doubled down on the misgendering. Her statement was not homophobic.

              • marx_mentat [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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                1 year ago

                In my experience, sexual inferences are the fastest way to educate someone who doesn’t see a word as being gendered, but I can see how what they said could be read as using gay sexual activity in a negative way to someone not reading this thread and skimmed over the rest of the text in that reply.

                Playing dumb is used by bigots as a shield to continue their bigotry unimpeded. Not allowing any room for them to play dumb is the only way to reach those kind of people.

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              1 year ago

              I agree with that, she clearly isn’t, as her pronouns clearly indicate. I’ve made that pretty clear in my first comment as well, I guess you missed it. That’s not what I’m talking about however.

              My comment is about using “fucking dudes” as a negative example, I’d have preferred if a different example would be used rather than scaring the straight (I assume he is) their possible internal homophobia to realise dude is a gendered term. As there is nothing wrong with fucking a dude, he could be fully okay with that, and that would be fine.

              As the poster’s pronouns are close to her heart, my sexuality is also close to mine, and fighting negative connotations surrounding that is something I can’t stop doing, I do hope you see that.

              • GarbageShoot [he/him]@hexbear.net
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                1 year ago

                What they are conveying is that “dude” is clearly not a gender-neutral term, as a straight guy would agree that they “fuck people”, weird as the phrasing is, but not that they “fuck dudes.” It demonstrates that they themselves don’t perceive the social understanding of the term “dude” as gender neutral, not that “fucking dudes” is bad. It could also be used to debate a lesbian by the same token.